But it only seems that way…
For the last 5 years I have been stewing, storing and shaping the stories of being a single parent. I have been talking, AT LENGTH, about the book I am working on –
Solo
Fear, fatigue and the restoration of the single parent.
Well, the time is here for me to ‘get cracking’ on getting it in some from that looks different than my scattered notes and musings.
So, here I go diving into the deep end.
I may be blogging a bit here and there, but for the most part my focus (outside of iShine) will be putting [...] Read More
It occurs to me that if we felt as bad about the things we didn’t do as the things we did do… our communities, and the world for that matter, would be a better place.
So much shame is put on the mistakes we make instead of the opportunities we miss to love others.
In other words… so much time is spent on us… not others.
I don’t know the origin of why we focus on the past rather than ‘right now’, but in my not so humble opinion Christians could be so much more effective in this world if we would look for [...] Read More
I was talking to a good friend the other night about relationships. This person was telling me about someone they knew who had recently been divorced, and how now he was so accommodating… to the point of annoyance. They also mentioned that this person, while married, had been accused of being too controlling.
It occurred to me that what might be happening here was something that I have made the mistake of doing in the past. Fixing past shortcomings with current situations…
Kinda paying penance or trying to prove to myself that I am NOT what I was accused of…
the problem with [...] Read More
For me, being a supermodel is definitely a heavy load!
I know you can relate…
I think the key is focusing on a few things at a time, and being deliberate about those things first.
I explain in this short video - Life as a supermodel
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Have you ever asked your kids what they thought YOU could work on as a parent?
I did. (I’ve got some work to do…)
Patience. Patience. Patience.
Here’s what my daughter said in this 30 sec video - I wish single parents wouldn’t….
What do you think, HONESTLY, your kid’s would say if asked the same question – What could I as a parent do better?
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Patience
Single Parent OVERWHELMED
I Blew it!
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( FIRST, I KNOW I SPELLED IT WRONG IN THE TITLE OF THE VIDEO:) )
As our kids get older, especially as teen agers, it seems sometimes all we are doing is correcting – at least thats the way it feels for me.
Well, you have heard of the “Love dare” from the movie Fireproof right – (one kind act a day day for 40 days) well, I have a similar ’dare’ for us parents
Look, find and express AT LEAST one word/thought a day of encouragement.
Sounds easy enough… well, the challenge is how you approach it – I explain in this video - Just one [...] Read More
I don’t remember who told me about this, BUT one of the most useful bits of advice I got upon becoming a single parent was this.
Find things that you don’t enjoy doing, hate doing, or are just a nuisance, and make them the consequences for our kids disobedience.
What do I mean by this?… It means that if there are certain chores around the house that you don’t enjoy doing, (for me it’s folding the laundry and putting the laundry away), make and keep a list of those things and delegate those as consequences to give out to our kids.
Often I [...] Read More
I had posted this awhile ago on a different blog but I wanted to share again because the idea of second chances or starting again is one we all have to get our heads around – especially as SoloParents.
One of the most profound lessons I have learned is this.
It was late September 11 and EARLY morning of September 12, 2002. A night I am not proud of, but one I hope to never forget.
Some very dear friends and I spontaneously decided to celebrate one of our friend’s birthdays further into the evening than we had originally planned. We had met for [...] Read More
I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine last night and he said something brilliant in passing… (which happens most times I get to spend time with him)
We were talking about parenting, disciplining and overall, raising kids. (but I believe this applies to any kind of relationship)
Now, I had just had a run in with one of my girls and I was discussing how things really change the older they get. His brief but poignant response was simple but profoundly helpful to me…
“yeah, sometimes parenting is not intuitive”
…it really struck me as something that I had been [...] Read More
The older our kids get the more and more they show disrespect towards us.
Being a single parent you get it all with no one else to shoulder the load.
This happens to us all, heres how I try to deal with it.
I explain in this 2 minute video, What to do with disrespect.
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